I was born in 1971. I am not having kids. I resent that these women interviewed gave such crap reasons, such as:
The four women they interviewed gave the following reasons for being 'childfree':
1) "I'm trying it just hasn't happened"
2)"I'm having too much fun"
3) "I haven't met the right man yet"
4) "I'm too vain"
This to me sounds like a cop out. Admit that you do NOT want kids and let the rest of the world accept it. For me, those 4 excuses are easily refuted.
1. I am enjoying a very healthy sex life with a/many partner(s) but unlike 1/2 the population, I have mastered the art of birth control. The only thing I am *trying* to do is to have more of it.
2. See #1. Sex IS fun and I'm having it more than those who have kids are. Also, I am going on holidays, eating out, wearing nicer clothes and I like my childless, cluttered home.
3. I have met the right man and he is MORE CF than me. If I hadn't met him, I'd have waited til I met another CF man who was on the same baby free page as me.
4. Perhaps I am. I like home clean, free from jam handprints and snot on every pillow. I like to wear nice clothes and not have to cover up with a burpy rag. I like to be able to get a mani-pedi when I want, as well as have a GOOD haircut and colour that is not from a place that offers lollipops to it's customers. I like that my stretch marks are from having eaten great food and having drunk great drinks.
5. I don't like kids. Babies make my skin crawl. I don't understand why everyone thinks that the world STOPS for them just because they had a kid.
Childfree, as I know it and live it, is to NEVER want one. EVER.
http://www.independentngonline.com/
One In Three Female Graduates Won’t Be Mothers
April 29th, 2007Sometimes one finds it difficult to believe some of the findings of modern day researchers, but hard as they are, it is obvious that some people are indeed doing more than others. Researchers in developed countries are committed to knowing why certain social phenomenon turn out the way they are in order to understand the human race better.
Recently, in the Daily Mail of London some researchers at the Centre for Longitudinal Studies, Institute of Education in London, reportedly came out with findings that indicate the likelihood of a third of female university graduates never becoming a mother.
The researchers polled a total of 35, 000 people born in 1970 in parts of Europe and tracked throughout their lives.
Though the researchers did not indicate if the women were blacks or mixture of white and black but one thing they did state is that the poll was done in London.
The study found out that 40 per cent of highly-educated women are still childless by the age of 35 which is an increase of 20 per cent in just over a decade.
The researchers then made a forecast that by the time the women reach the likely end of their child-bearing years of 45, about 30 per cent of them will still be childless.
They noted that while some are making a conscious decision not to have a family, others are simply leaving it too late after taking years to build their careers, buy a home and find the right partner. And graduates who do become mothers are having fewer children and leaving it later.
If the trend continues, the eventual rate of childlessness among graduates now in their 20s is likely to be even higher than a third.
Professor Heather Joshi, head of the research team said: "They waited to establish their housing, careers and sometimes to find the right man."
Out of a group of graduate women born in 1958, 32.7 per cent were childless at 35.
The result has assisted in helping to explain the low birth rate which is leading to an ageing population in Britain and much of Western Europe.
The study has also led to calls for employers to be more flexible so that women do not feel their career would be over if they have children.
(What do you think about Nigeria’s situation? Is education and career affecting marriage and child bearing of female graduates? Send comments to yinks_shok@yahoo.com or simply text 08033338634)
2 comments:
Hi CFT --
Congratulations on creating your own CF space. I wanted to respond to this:
"Childfree, as I know it and live it, is to NEVER want one. EVER."
That is why I created Purple Women & Friends. Childfree, and I do approve that you omit the hyphen, is this and it can also be someone like me who always thought they were going to have children and found out they simply couldn't. It was a long journey to childfree for me, and even then some of my peers didn't think I belonged in the club.
For me, recognizing the decision was empowering. I could have adopted, assuming that cost is not an object, and I could have chosen to marry a man who already had kids. I really did chose to be childfree, just not in the same way you did it.
I don't think the term Purple Woman will catch on as vernacular in the greater pockets of our culture, but I do think it is much cooler to be self-defined, rather than let others do it for you!
Thanks! Always good to have support!
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